If you’re a speaker or author, there’s a moment at events and book signings that can feel deeply uncomfortable.
You show up—and suddenly people light up.
They’ve been waiting for you.
They’ve seen your face on posters, emails, and videos for months. They’ve read your book, watched your clips, or heard about you from a friend. And now, there you are—in real life.
They smile big.
They gush.
They say things like, “Thank you so much for coming!” with genuine excitement.
And, likely, your instinct is to shrink back.
Because being placed on a pedestal feels unnatural for servant-hearted speakers and authors.
You know the truth:
You’re not anyone special.
God doesn’t love you more.
Your prayers aren’t more powerful.
You’re just obedient.
So when people admire or compliment you, the natural reaction is to deflect it—to push the attention away as quickly as possible.
But here’s what I had to learn the hard way:
Don’t deflect the spotlight.
Embrace it—wisely and humbly.
Years ago, someone gave me advice that completely reframed this for me.
“Be the bride.”
No one begrudges the bride her spotlight.
When my son got married, his bride was the center of attention—and rightly so. We had all been anticipating that day. We were eager to admire her, celebrate her, and shower her with compliments.
And as the bride, she didn’t apologize for it.
She smiled.
She mingled.
She received the joy and admiration graciously.
She embraced her celebrity for the day.
As a speaker or author at an event, you are the “bride” of the day.
Just for that day.
So go ahead and:
- Smile
- Greet
- Mingle
- Receive
When someone says, “Thank you for coming,” try responding with:
“I’ve been looking forward to being here. Thank you so much for inviting me.”
When someone compliments your talk or your book, say:
“Thank you. I love talking about this.”
If you’re sharing your testimony, you might say:
“It’s such a gift to be on this side of the story now and use it for good.”
You’re not claiming glory.
You’re stewarding attention.
Because the truth is—people don’t just want your message.
They want you to deliver it.
So just for today, embrace the spotlight.
Be the bride.
Tomorrow? You’re right back to ordinary life—cooking, cleaning, answering emails, and doing laundry.
Am I right? 😊
Question: At your next event or book signing, what would change if—instead of deflecting the attention—you chose to receive it graciously as part of stewarding your calling? Where might God want to use your presence, not just your message, to encourage someone else?
About Robyn Dykstra
Robyn Dykstra is a national Christian speaker and best-selling author who inspires audiences with biblical truth and her powerful personal story. As the founder of Christian Speakers Boot Camp, Robyn has trained and launched hundreds of women into their speaking ministries. She equips Christian women to craft compelling messages, present with confidence, teach the Bible with excellence, book paid speaking engagements, and sell books by the boatload at live events. To connect with Robyn, go to www.robyndykstra.com.
