Did you know most people work harder to avoid failure than they do to achieve success?
I certainly did.
For years, fear kept me stuck. I had all the reasons why I wasn’t ready to step onto bigger stages, write my story, or pursue the calling God placed on my life.
Maybe you’ve said some of these same things to yourself:
“I’m not polished enough.”
“I don’t know enough Scripture.”
“My writing isn’t good enough.”
“There are already so many better speakers and authors out there.”
“What if I fail publicly?”
Fear is sneaky like that. It disguises itself as wisdom, humility, or preparation when really it’s just keeping us silent.
And silence is expensive.
Every time we hold back the message God entrusted to us, someone misses the encouragement, hope, healing, or breakthrough they may have received through our obedience.
Here’s what I’ve learned after decades of speaking, writing, and coaching communicators:
Failure isn’t fatal—it’s formational.
The moments I wanted to quit often became the very stories God later used most powerfully.
The awkward message? It taught me preparation.
The small audience? It taught me faithfulness.
The rejection email? It taught me perseverance.
The imperfect book launch? It taught me dependence on God instead of applause.
None of it was wasted.
As Christian communicators, we often assume successful speakers and authors are fearless. They’re not. Most simply learned to move forward while feeling afraid.
Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is obedience in the presence of fear.
If you want to grow as a speaker or author, you have to reframe failure. You do not lose when something goes imperfectly. You either win or you learn.
Every podcast interview, article submission, manuscript draft, women’s event, Bible study lesson, social media video, or keynote presentation is developing your voice and sharpening your message.
Growth happens in motion.
One practical way to keep moving forward is to set tiered goals to take some of the angst out of trying.
Your minimum goal might be sharing your testimony with a small group, submitting one article, or posting a short devotional online.
Your target goal could be teaching at a retreat, pitching podcasts, or completing a manuscript proposal.
Your stretch goal may be building a signature talk series, signing a book contract, speaking XX times a year at conferences, or launching a ministry platform that reaches thousands.
All progress counts.
Too many gifted Christian communicators are waiting until they feel fully confident before they begin. But confidence rarely comes first. Obedience comes first. Confidence grows afterward.
God never asked us to be perfect before saying yes.
Throughout Scripture, we see ordinary people stepping into extraordinary callings while feeling deeply inadequate. Moses felt unqualified. Esther felt uncertain. Gideon felt afraid. Yet God still used them powerfully because His strength was never dependent on their perfection.
And friend, the same is true for you.
If God has given you a message, a story, a manuscript, or a burden to encourage others, don’t bury it under fear.
- Speak anyway.
- Write anyway.
- Submit the proposal anyway.
- Pitch the event anyway.
- Share your testimony anyway.
- Do it scared.
Someone on the other side of your obedience is waiting for the hope, healing, encouragement, or freedom your message carries.
You do not have to be the most polished speaker in the room or the most accomplished author on the shelf for God to use you powerfully. You simply need to be willing.
The Kingdom does not need more gifted women hiding in hesitation.
It needs faithful women who will stand up, speak out, write bravely, and trust God with the results.
Why not you?
P.S. I can’t wait to see many of you at the Speak Up Conference July 9–11! Be sure to say hello if you see me there. And if you’re ready to grow your speaking ministry, join me for my pre-conference session, 7 Strategies to Secure Speaking Engagements, or my breakout session, Give Your Speaking the Royal Treatment, where I’ll teach practical presentation skills to help you rock the stage with confidence, clarity, and connection.
Question: What’s one fear or “not ready yet” excuse that has kept you from stepping into your calling, and what’s one small act of obedience you could take this week to move forward anyway?


About Robyn Dykstra
Robyn Dykstra is a national Christian speaker and best-selling author who inspires audiences with biblical truth and her powerful personal story. As the founder of Christian Speakers Boot Camp, Robyn has trained and launched hundreds of women into their speaking ministries. She equips Christian women to craft compelling messages, present with confidence, teach the Bible with excellence, book paid speaking engagements, and sell books by the boatload at live events. To connect with Robyn, go to www.robyndykstra.com.
